December 12, 2013 in Adventures in Re-Discovering Myself
I get so caught up with the daily grind of my life that I forget to make time for my friends, and they do the same. “Let’s meet for lunch sometime,” we tell each other, but “sometime” never comes. Kids get sick, or someone’s going out of town, or there’s an appointment that suddenly comes up. But we understand…that’s how life goes.
Last weekend, I attended not one but two parties with dear friends. I drank…a lot. (Fireball Cinnamon Whiskey: you are my new BFF.)
I laughed so much so that I got an unexpected ab workout. I had intense and thoughtful conversations with some and hilariously silly ones with others. I reminisced about the old days and caught up with new developments. Through it all, I kept thinking to myself: Why don’t we do this more often?
Because here’s the thing: Not only do I enjoy spending time with my friends, I need it. As one friend and I discussed over the weekend, one person can’t give you everything.
I don’t know what I would do without my mom jumping in to help with my kids, but she’s not the one I’m going to call when I feel like reminiscing about some of the crazy things I did in college.
I can talk about anything with my sister (and I do!) but as someone with no kids of her own, she’s not the one I’m going to call when I have a parenting crisis. (Actually, I would still call her, but then I’d call one of my fellow moms too.)
I get wonderful gifts from my kids on an hourly basis, but they are not the ones I can share a laugh with about the 1oz liquor flasks charmingly disguised as tampons that appeared in one white elephant gift exchange. (I did not bring them, nor did I go home with them, but if you’re interested in smuggling alcohol in a tampon shaped flask, here’s the link.)
These are the kinds of things good friends are for, and I’m making it my New Year’s Resolution to spend more time with my friends. I make time to shower every day, to go to the gym, to tell my kids I love them, and to eat. As far as I’m concerned, spending time with friends is just as important and I’m rearranging my schedule to make time for that.
To My Fabulous Friends: I am so lucky to have you and I couldn’t get through this life without you!